In this special one hour long episode (its worth the listen!) I speak with my darling older sister, Sanaz, she is also a mother, wife and barrister specialising in human rights, public and immigration law. My diagnosis, how it affected her? Are we still close? Listen to find out x
Trigger warning about cutting, then we discuss her top tips to manage her BPD - how she is trying to go dairy free but managed to visit Dairy Queen with her fiancée! Thank you beautiful for your words and also your presence x follow her on insta @thebrettina 🤍✨
Self-forgiveness enables you to separate who you are, from the mistakes you have made. This way you can begin to learn from your choices and find ways to make amends when possible. It will be easier to truly forgive others when you start forgiving yourself. Forgiveness is a process that takes time.
I chat with the wise and wonderful @youmatterbpd - find her on Instagram all about motherhood and battling bpd x
Nobody talks about bpd and bringing down the ‘good emotions’ like joy. Make sure you do so you’re not exhausted after. What goes up must come down, eventually. Follow me on insta @overthetopwoman and twitter @NSaifolahi
Black and white thinking is the tendency to think in extremes: I am a brilliant success, or I am an utter failure. My boyfriend is an angel, or He’s the devil incarnate.
This thought pattern, which the American Psychological Association also calls dichotomous or polarized thinking, is considered a cognitive distortion because it keeps us from seeing the world as it often is: complex, nuanced, and full of all the shades in between.
Building Mastery is a DBT skill. I challenge you to dedicate 10mins a day this week doing something you love doing. Only ten mins as this is a realistic goal you can achieve aka BUILDING MASTERY. Follow @ms.charlotte.astrology on insta x
In this episode I read out from the rethink mental Illness website section on Borderline Personality Disorder and chat about my what to do now I know I am diagnosed. Why are no physical symptoms listed?
In this short episode I chat about my article time to change published, meeting my ‘pen pal’ for the first time and also @recoverymum book ‘The Big Book on Borderline Personality Disorder’ xx
Bad day. I forgot to use the STOP skill (DBT skills are everything but for some reason everything felt really overwhelming). BUT it’s okay to feel. Just have the commitment to reduce the existing suffering! OTT Woman website to be launching soon x
In this episode I discuss DBT skills; Wise Mind accept, distract skill and self soothing via the use of sound.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them, cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem.
How far can we blame our actions on our mental health conditions? Isn’t character separate to this? Or is it part of it? Xx
Link to buy the DBT worksheet book via amazon is here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811
In this episode I discuss my ways of earning money at the moment and the importance of connecting and collaborating with inspiring people. Also! Don’t forget to give back x Follow my friend and collaborator @Ms.charlotte.astrology on Instagram and purchase your kink free hair ties & urban turbans that are on sale from Instagram page @hidoll.london
In this episode I discuss my therapists tips on managing intense feelings of guilt. First check the facts to see if the facts fit with the emotion. Next do some opposite action and lastly, some radical acceptance and self soothing skills. Sending love and clarity to you all x
In this episode I discuss using the FAST skill (FAST is about maintaining your self-respect during conflict. ... Fair — to yourself and others. ... (no) Apologies — this doesn't mean you never apologize--apologizing can be incredibly powerful in relationships. ... Stick to your values — Stand up for what you believe in. ... Truthful — be honest with yourself and others. AND Building Mastery. Page 256 from the DBT Skls Training Handouts & Worksheets book. Sending you all love and light.
Thanks to my lovely IG follower and podcast listener @BPDBLOKETALES for prompting me to discuss the topic of overeating and BPD. Loads of love (and cupcakes.. ok no) x
Reading from the DBT Skills Workbook page 333. You can buy it on amazon here; https://www.amazon.co.uk/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=dbt+skills&qid=1594676777&sr=8-3
In this episode I share how inspired I was from watching a channel 5 programme on train journeys! It made me think about the idea of managing emotions. Check these out https://www.visitnorway.com/plan-your-trip/getting-around/by-train/beautiful-journeys/