Over The Top Woman
OTT WOMAN - A chat with my sister

OTT WOMAN - A chat with my sister

February 20, 2021

In this special one hour long episode (its worth the listen!) I speak with my darling older sister, Sanaz, she is also a mother, wife and barrister specialising in human rights, public and immigration law. My diagnosis, how it affected her? Are we still close? Listen to find out x

OTT Woman interviews the amazing Brettina

OTT Woman interviews the amazing Brettina

January 20, 2021

Trigger warning about cutting, then we discuss her top tips to manage her BPD - how she is trying to go dairy free but managed to visit Dairy Queen with her fiancée! Thank you beautiful for your words and also your presence x follow her on insta @thebrettina 🤍✨

Forgive Yourself

Forgive Yourself

December 12, 2020

Self-forgiveness enables you to separate who you are, from the mistakes you have made. This way you can begin to learn from your choices and find ways to make amends when possible. It will be easier to truly forgive others when you start forgiving yourself. Forgiveness is a process that takes time.

OTT Woman - Crisis TIPPS (dbt is a game changer)

OTT Woman - Crisis TIPPS (dbt is a game changer)

November 10, 2020

In this short episode I share with you Skills to use when you are in HIGH emotion mind. Share if you think it’s helpful x

OTT Woman - Splitting (part 2) on my ex best friend
OTT Woman - Splitting
OTT Woman - My first speaking event left me reflective and flat
OTT Woman - “You dont stop being you when you become a mother”

OTT Woman - “You dont stop being you when you become a mother”

October 29, 2020

I chat with the wise and wonderful @youmatterbpd - find her on Instagram all about motherhood and battling bpd x

OTT Woman - Joy! Bring it down a notch…

OTT Woman - Joy! Bring it down a notch…

October 28, 2020

Nobody talks about bpd and bringing down the ‘good emotions’ like joy. Make sure you do so you’re not exhausted after. What goes up must come down, eventually. Follow me on insta @overthetopwoman and twitter @NSaifolahi

OTT Woman - A day in the life suffering with BPD

OTT Woman - A day in the life suffering with BPD

October 15, 2020

In this episode I discuss my daily struggles due to my bpd and how with some of the things I handle them all x

OTT Woman - October 12th. Cancer and Love

OTT Woman - October 12th. Cancer and Love

October 12, 2020

October 12th 2017.

OTT Woman chats with John & Charlie!

OTT Woman chats with John & Charlie!

September 30, 2020

John the man of many talents! Mental Health activist, rapper and all round lovely person! Listen to me chat. Follow him @johnandcharlie_

OTT Woman - We chat with BPD CREATIVITY

OTT Woman - We chat with BPD CREATIVITY

September 27, 2020

I chat with the person behind Instagram account @bpdcreativity one of the first accounts I started following when I was first diagnosed with BPD!

OTT Woman - Black + White Thinking & Covid 19

OTT Woman - Black + White Thinking & Covid 19

September 24, 2020

Black and white thinking is the tendency to think in extremes: I am a brilliant success, or I am an utter failure. My boyfriend is an angel, or He’s the devil incarnate.

This thought pattern, which the American Psychological Association also calls dichotomous or polarized thinking, is considered a cognitive distortion because it keeps us from seeing the world as it often is: complex, nuanced, and full of all the shades in between.

OTT Woman - BPD and our Favourite People!

OTT Woman - BPD and our Favourite People!

September 8, 2020

“People with BPD often experience intense attachment to a single person: they determine our mood, our identity, and our self-worth. They are called our Favourite Person”

OTT Woman - Do what you love, building mastery.

OTT Woman - Do what you love, building mastery.

August 30, 2020

Building Mastery is a DBT skill. I challenge you to dedicate 10mins a day this week doing something you love doing. Only ten mins as this is a realistic goal you can achieve aka BUILDING MASTERY. Follow @ms.charlotte.astrology on insta x

OTT Woman - Please Don’t Leave Me.

OTT Woman - Please Don’t Leave Me.

August 24, 2020

In this episode I share my experience of taking frank my gorgeous 5 month year old kitten to the vets to get the SNIP. How did I manage all of this? Fear of abandonment. I thought he was going to die x

OTT Woman - Uncertainty & how to deal with it!

OTT Woman - Uncertainty & how to deal with it!

August 22, 2020

In this episode I discuss UNCERTAINTY and how the APPLE DBT SKILL helps with that. X

OTT Woman - BPD Criteria. Okay you have it. Now what?

OTT Woman - BPD Criteria. Okay you have it. Now what?

August 21, 2020

In this episode I read out from the rethink mental Illness website section on Borderline Personality Disorder and chat about my what to do now I know I am diagnosed. Why are no physical symptoms listed?

OTT Woman - My article about my BPD journey has been published!!!

OTT Woman - My article about my BPD journey has been published!!!

August 20, 2020

In this short episode I chat about my article time to change published, meeting my ‘pen pal’ for the first time and also @recoverymum book ‘The Big Book on Borderline Personality Disorder’ xx

OTT Woman - i am giving up…..

OTT Woman - i am giving up…..

August 16, 2020

... cigarettes! It starts here. The rest will follow ⭐️🙏🏻 in this episode I read out from page 356 (Distress Tolerance) from the DBT worksheets and handout book by Marsha M. Linehan x

OTT Woman - the brain is a muscle

OTT Woman - the brain is a muscle

August 15, 2020

In this episode I talk about just having ‘landed’ - a new day and I’m feeling a LOT more grounded than I did yesterday. I challenge YOU to think about what drives your decisions. And buy yourself some flowers. X

OTT Woman - Triggering Day but i survived.

OTT Woman - Triggering Day but i survived.

August 14, 2020

Bad day. I forgot to use the STOP skill (DBT skills are everything but for some reason everything felt really overwhelming). BUT it’s okay to feel. Just have the commitment to reduce the existing suffering! OTT Woman website to be launching soon x

OTT Woman - Top 5 things i LOVE about DBT

OTT Woman - Top 5 things i LOVE about DBT

August 12, 2020

In this short episode I discuss my top 5 favourite things about DBT and how it’s changed my life, for the better. Sending you love and skilful means 💓🤍

OTT Woman - I found sounds that make you happy & calm!

OTT Woman - I found sounds that make you happy & calm!

August 10, 2020

In this episode I discuss DBT skills; Wise Mind accept, distract skill and self soothing via the use of sound.

OTT Woman - Adult, Parent + Child

OTT Woman - Adult, Parent + Child

August 9, 2020

In this episode I discuss how to be alone. With yourself. Things to do, how to avoid relying on ‘emotional mind’ - I hope this speaks to you all. Sending love, wisdom and clarity. Look after your inner child x

OTT Woman - ‘its all your fault’

OTT Woman - ‘its all your fault’

August 8, 2020

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them, cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem.

OTT Woman - Job limitations due to BPD

OTT Woman - Job limitations due to BPD

August 6, 2020

What job is suited for us? Office? Hell no. Working with children? Tricky.

OTT Woman - Your Character VS Your Mental Illness

OTT Woman - Your Character VS Your Mental Illness

August 6, 2020

How far can we blame our actions on our mental health conditions? Isn’t character separate to this? Or is it part of it? Xx

 

Link to buy the DBT worksheet book via amazon is here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811

 

 

OTT Woman - Writing is Healing

OTT Woman - Writing is Healing

August 5, 2020

In this episode I discuss the power of writing and using that creative part of our brain that we all have by the way! I challenge you all to do some free writing everyday for 5 mins! Would love to see what you come up with xx

OTT Woman - that weekend

OTT Woman - that weekend

August 4, 2020

In this episode I discuss my weekend.

OTT Woman - Untitled

OTT Woman - Untitled

August 1, 2020

In this episode I haven’t focused on one topic, just a little check in and update chat on the hottest day of the year here in the UK.

OTT Woman - Giving Back 🙏🏻

OTT Woman - Giving Back 🙏🏻

July 30, 2020

In this episode I chat about my plans to host a fundraising zoom event for the charity mind! Details TBC. I also discuss how helping others can be really healing for your own recovery from BPD x

OTT Woman - The Beauty of Collaborating!

OTT Woman - The Beauty of Collaborating!

July 29, 2020

In this episode I discuss my ways of earning money at the moment and the importance of connecting and collaborating with inspiring people. Also! Don’t forget to give back x Follow my friend and collaborator @Ms.charlotte.astrology on Instagram and purchase your kink free hair ties & urban turbans that are on sale from Instagram page @hidoll.london

OTT Woman - Addictive Behaviours, DBT skills!

OTT Woman - Addictive Behaviours, DBT skills!

July 27, 2020

Reading from page 357 in the DBT Skills Training Handouts & Worksheets manual - Distress Tolerance.

OTT Woman - a very pleasant day!!!

OTT Woman - a very pleasant day!!!

July 26, 2020

In this episode I just discuss my Sunday; how grateful I am to be working with my co-writer Charlie on a new, delicious script and also to be mindful even when we’re HAPPY to regulate the emotion x

OTT Woman - Guilty.

OTT Woman - Guilty.

July 24, 2020

In this episode I discuss my therapists tips on managing intense feelings of guilt. First check the facts to see if the facts fit with the emotion. Next do some opposite action and lastly, some radical acceptance and self soothing skills. Sending love and clarity to you all x

OTT Woman - a tough couple of days but i used DBT Skills which reduced the suffering

OTT Woman - a tough couple of days but i used DBT Skills which reduced the suffering

July 22, 2020

In this episode I discuss using the FAST skill (FAST is about maintaining your self-respect during conflict. ... Fair — to yourself and others. ... (no) Apologies — this doesn't mean you never apologize--apologizing can be incredibly powerful in relationships. ... Stick to your values — Stand up for what you believe in. ... Truthful — be honest with yourself and others. AND Building Mastery. Page 256 from the DBT Skls Training Handouts & Worksheets book. Sending you all love and light.

OTT Woman - Lonliness? Being Alone?

OTT Woman - Lonliness? Being Alone?

July 20, 2020

In this episode I discuss feeling lonely and/or being alone. And what to do about it. Huge thank you to my lovely listener and IG follower @BPDBLOKETALES for his kind donation to help keep my podcast alive! X

OTT Woman - CATS & what we can learn from them

OTT Woman - CATS & what we can learn from them

July 16, 2020

In this episode I discuss a couple of things I’ve learnt from my kitten Frank. Listen to find out.. and please comment below or get in touch with topics you’d like me to discuss in my next episode! X

OTT Woman - Overeating + Undereating + my memory of squatting over some steaming hot herbs

OTT Woman - Overeating + Undereating + my memory of squatting over some steaming hot herbs

July 14, 2020

Thanks to my lovely IG follower and podcast listener @BPDBLOKETALES for prompting me to discuss the topic of overeating and BPD. Loads of love (and cupcakes.. ok no) x

OTT Woman - Distress Tolerance Distracting DBT Skills!

OTT Woman - Distress Tolerance Distracting DBT Skills!

July 13, 2020

Reading from the DBT Skills Workbook page 333. You can buy it on amazon here; https://www.amazon.co.uk/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=dbt+skills&qid=1594676777&sr=8-3

OTT Woman - I am taking the scenic route

OTT Woman - I am taking the scenic route

July 10, 2020

In this episode I share how inspired I was from watching a channel 5 programme on train journeys! It made me think about the idea of managing emotions. Check these out https://www.visitnorway.com/plan-your-trip/getting-around/by-train/beautiful-journeys/

OTT Woman - I am so hot

OTT Woman - I am so hot

July 8, 2020

In this episode I discuss wearing inappropriate clothes and feeling HOT, how this affects your mood. Breathing exercises really help to change the intensity of emotion. As does a cold shower. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JfKYqzIeLxc

OTT Woman - i confronted my therapist and realised I need to slow down.
OTT Woman - DBT skills are EVERYTHING
OTT Woman - Angry Energy, What to do with it?
OTT Woman - To date or not to date? That is the question!
OTT Woman - Marsha Linehan emailed me.

OTT Woman - Marsha Linehan emailed me.

June 30, 2020

In this episode I discuss my morning: I woke up to an email from ‘Marsha Linehan’ founder of DBT therapy. I also discuss my future goals.

OTT Woman - Be a Rebel, DBT style

OTT Woman - Be a Rebel, DBT style

June 28, 2020

In this short episode I discuss DBT skill alternate to rebellion and how I’ve discovered flower pressing and stealing other peoples leaves as my alternate rebellion 🤣😳🤦🏽‍♀️🙂🕵🏾‍♀️

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